Time to let go of unresolved grief and blame towards yourself. We can cling to pain and grievance that can dampen our energy. Even if we think we are justified in holding on we are the ones that suffer.
when the memory is fresh it can keep any wounds open. Now is the time to heal and let go, as it will bring strength and transformation.
If you find it difficult to express your feelings write them down. Exactly the way you see the events or the feelings associated with the event.
Become the detective and jot down what you see, the room, the people, the smells, the words spoken, the effect.
It allows you to see and feel as a third person, detached but relevant to heal.